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Alter Your Beliefs and Increase Your Knowledge to Manage Stress!

March 26, 2007

Our beliefs and knowledge affect how much stress we experience in the face of problems, traumas, ageing and the threat of death. Most humans experience setbacks which can cause stress overload in their lives and can halt their forward progress in life. By learning how our attitudes, beliefs and knowledge can help us manage stress, we can learn to deal with these setbacks and the stress that comes along with it more effectively!

We first need to change our attitudes from a “I Can’t Do It” to “I Will Find A Solution For It”. Focus on the problem and find the solution to it. Rather than just wallowing in self-pity. Visualise yourself having accomplished the end result that you want and committing yourself to take action to help make this a reality.

We can manage huge stress by managing and changing or at least, altering our own beliefs of ourselves and the situations. We need to constantly reexamine the situation and think from different viewpoints in order to find a solution. We often doubt ourselves and cause ourselves to create limiting beliefs which hinder our capabilities. Moreover, we also give up on pursuing our goals once we let the environment affect the way we construct our beliefs. Hence, it’s important to review our beliefs to see if they are logical especially with regards to the present stressful situation that we are facing.

Increased knowledge can also relieve stress too although, occasionally, lack of knowledge or ignorance may be our best friend! Well, increased knowledge about how our minds work will teach us not to dwell on the negative aspects of our lives. We should take note of our problems but not brood over them. Instead we should consider solutions and even imagine how we would feel if the problem had been solved.

Well, we should not pretend our problems do not exist or that they are unreal. Moreover, we should not waste good time and energy worrying about them. Instead, take action now to solve them rather than feeling stressed over them. Keep affirming and visualizing a happy outcome in order to achieve the success and ultimate goals that we want in life!

Personal Development

Ways To Be A Winner!!!

March 20, 2007

Winning is really nothing more than an attitude. Because even though 2 people might be doing the same things and following the same steps, the ends results may not be the same.

So, are you a winner?

If you don’t think you are and think that you can use some help to get started, well here are the ways to achieve that winning attitude that you will need in order to accomplish your goals and achieve success! What does it take to be a winner?

1. Always looking towards the future

>> Look forward and not back. Never look back at the past or your failures. Sure, the past is good for learning what not to do, or applying the techniques developed to bring about success. But it is not good to hold us back by dwelling on past failures and mistakes.

2. Have gratitude

>> Develop a habit of thankfulness and thank those who help you along the way. Moreover, also be thankful for all your experiences – good or bad. Take a few moments every now and then, to reflect on all the good things you have and also to think about how bad things have taught you meaningful and precious lessons.

3. Have the Never-Give-Up attitude

>> Do not allow yourself to be discouraged and give up. You never know how close you are to the breakthrough. Always put in your best effort and never stop trying because you never know if your next move or the next day can be the one that will transform your destiny.

4. Live a day at a time

>> Always set attainable short term goals for the day which can allow you to accomplish your long term goals/vision. It’s better to take tiny steps towards your goal than to be overwhelmed with the enormity of the task to do so. Every day that brings results is an affirmation that you will be able to do the same tomorrow, and so on.

5. Expect great results

>> Once you have the vision as to which path to follow to success; then expect great results! Write down your vision, paste it on the wall in front of you, and speak it out loud every chance you get. Always visualize achieving the results that you want to see and never doubt yourself!

6. Have the right tools

>> You need to make sure that you have the things you need to help you accomplish your success. Just like a carpenter needs his tools to transform wood to furniture, you need your tools to transform your life into a great success story!

7. Always forgive

>> Get rid of all the bad feelings you have against those who have hurt you – whether deliberately or not. Forgive them. Past experiences and disappointments will hurt you further and hold you back. Let go; move on and prove to yourself that you can do it. Remember, though, you are proving yourself; you’re doing it for you. Having anger or resentment will block your vision and creative juices from flowing and rob you of the joyful satisfaction that accompanies success.

8. Seek inspirations

>> Always be inspired by success stories or God. Always look up to them for hope whenever you are disheartened or discouraged.
These steps let you have the winning attitude that you must have in order to achieve the success you want! So, always practice them and keep them in mind!

Personal Development

Would You Rather Be Rich Or Happy?

March 19, 2007

Here’s a question for you to ponder. “Would You Rather Be Rich Or Happy?”

Well, this question sparked a debate over at Calvin’s Blog and it’s really cool to see all the comments that are posted by his blog readers on this question.

It had me thinking for awhile especially after attending Johnny Wimbrey’s seminar and it’s important to know what you seek for in life.

But I’m not asking you to choose between or to seek only wealth or happiness. There’s a possibility that they co-exist and in fact, they need each other to co-exist.

As I mentioned in his blog, that Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs explains just why is that so. Well, the Hierarchy of Needs states that each person has different needs – Physiological, Safety, Belongingness, Esteem and Self-Actualisation.

Well, according to the diagram, we need to satisfy the needs found at the bottom because the need is stronger. If it is not fulfilled, your motivation will draw you towards fulfilling it. As such, in order to be happy, we will need to fulfill our basic needs and only then can we start to fulfil our other needs such as status, love, happiness etc.

Being wealthy doesn’t guarantee that it will make you happy but at least, it can guarantee at least your physiological and security needs (characterised by financial stability too) to be fulfilled. And being able to fulfill those needs allow you to achieve needs at higher levels such as social, esteem and self-actualisation needs.

I agree with Calvin that “it’s not really about YOU being happy and YOU being rich.” Others play a part in your life too you know.

So can I be wealthy and happy? Of course!

When you are wealthy and able to fulfill your basic needs, you most probably can fulfill the basic needs of others – your family, friends or even strangers. You can give much more to others and this to me, is happiness. Because when you see others happy, especially your loved ones, you’ll naturally be happy.

Well, I don’t think my post can give you much revelation. So, do hop down to Calvin’s! I’m sure you’ll gain some insights on this issue over there! 😉  

Personal Development

What Kind Of Person Are You?

March 18, 2007

Apologies for missing out on blogging for the past 2 days because it has been a really hectic and crazy weekend for me and Calvin. We were really busy with our school work, workshop and also attending a seminar by Johnny Wimbrey on Saturday.

Johnny Wimbrey in action

It was definitely a great seminar where I really felt recharged and in a positive mindset after hearing the words of this motivational speaker from Success University. He shared something really interesting – the 3 kinds of people in this world. And it’s really cool that after the entire seminar, I brought home a great message for myself and that is ‘always be in the action because only then will you have the best experience’.

So, which of the 3 kinds of people are you? Here’s more..

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Personal Development

How To Build Professional Relationships

March 17, 2007

Since last year, I had the chance to actually work with executives from a reknowned local bank and I must say that the experience working with them, is certainly one that I truly appreciate and learnt a lot from.

Mainly, I got to know how to work with people who were well, in the corporate world and at the same time, to manage my working relationships with them. It’s amazing how these relationships actually take place on a different magnitude and scale of formality and seriousness.

I have taken home, several tips on how to build and maintain professional relationships with my work stint with the bank executives and here are some that I’d like to share with you.

When in a corporate/professional relationship, actually, in any relationship as a matter of fact, it is always good to make it a point to contribute to the relationship.

How do I go about it?

Well, it actually means to just offer your time, energy to the relationship and also putting in effort to establishing contacts and sharing knowledge with the people who are involved in this relationship. And you need to do it generously. Despite perhaps having a reason as to why you have entered this professional relationship, you need to learn to give to the relationship without well, any agenda or attachment to an outcome. It’s giving generously and almost selflessly.


Because your contribution shows how sincere you are in maintaining and developing the relationship that you have with them. It shows people how committed you are to developing the relationship and helps establish the trust that they will have in you.

When I talk about contribution, other than the ways mentioned about, it can also be accomplished through ways such as helping, coaching, understanding and listening to others.

Well, a relationship cannot exist if there are no mutual needs that are required to be satisfied by each party in it. It might be just to listen, give some advice, be a mentor/guide, offer a mini training – well, it varies according to the need. Hence, you will need to help at least one person in some way to satisfy a need that they might have. Some people have defined the value of contribution as meaning, “being in service to others” and is a core value in a corporate relationship.

There are actually still so many ways in which we can contribute to a relationship in. Such as providing good ideas or perhaps sharing happiness with another. Random acts of kindness such as opening a door for someone or running an errand can help establish a Moreover, providing suggestions as to improve a current situation or changing the way things are done to be more efficient or cost-productive.

By generously offering your time, expertise, and wisdom with whom you have established a working relationship with, you share with him/her your heart as well as sincerity. And to fully contribute to others, you must also be able to receive the contributions from others!

By doing so, how does it benefit me?

Well, by ‘being in service’ and contributing to others, it attracts people and abundance to you and allows good things to flow into your life. All you have to do is to show up and be fully present with people, establish a connection and build on the relationship that you have with them, hear them and respond sincerely. By doing so, you have created for yourself opportunities to work with others and to receive help from them readily which can multiply the routes towards success that you have today!